You may have thought that you would never find a man who made you feel complete, but it happened. He has accepted the fact that you have a son, is encouraging when it comes to your career, and appreciates your interests. Now that you have decided to tie the knot and will be moving in with your partner in the near future, you may be concerned about how your preschooler will take the news. Treat the transition phase carefully and guide your child through this life changing scenario.
Be Factual About The Change
Try to be straight to the point when telling your child about the impending marriage and change in your family's composition. Your youngster will not be able to comprehend a complex description, so minimize your wording and allow your son to ask you questions, if need be. The main point that you need to focus on is verbalizing that you are not going anywhere and that you love your kid as much as you always have.
Tell your child that his relationship with his father will not change. Then, ask your child about how he feels concerning his future stepdad. Mention some past moments that were special and share some quotes that will sum up the relationship with his future stepdad.
A few stepdad quotes that pertain to the fact that your husband-to-be enjoys spending time with your child, or that he loves him as much as he would love his own child, can be helpful. Just remember not to be overbearing when it comes to your announcement, and respect your child's wishes if he does not feel like speaking in depth about the situation at hand.
Demonstrate Your/Your Child's Caring Attitude
Another thing that you have to remember is that your partner may not always feel as if he is an important part of your child's life. Naturally, he is willing to take on the role of a stepdad, but maybe he needs to be reminded that he is a valued member of your family. This can be done by verbally expressing your feelings or by giving him special mementos, from time to time.
For example, when Father's Day is approaching, allow your child to help you select gifts for his biological father and his stepdad. When it comes time to fill out a Father's Day card for your new partner, include quotes inside of the card that express how grateful you are for the fact that your significant other has come into your and your child's life.
Use written quotes to let it be known that even though your partner is not your youngster's biological father, you and your child love him deeply and are thankful that the three of you have the opportunity to live together and share special moments together.